All i feel like doing lately is whining, boo hoo everything. I’m alone, i don’t like being alone. I’m not good at it. The past few weeks have felt like a real struggle. Reading blogs about people who go on an on about their husbands being magical creatures has lost it’s appeal. I can order a unicorn online, they are magical creatures. Only it would means i’d have to shovel magical unicorn crap. I’m not sure the cats would go for this either. They are kind of snobs and don’t like adding people to their club, I’m working on a deal with them about accepting Wyatt into their club, they are considering my offer.
Disclaimer- if you find this next part offensive I’m sorry, this is my place to vent and if it offends you remember it’s just one persons opinion.
Also, lately I’ve been hearing griping about how hard it is to single parent while their spouses are away, and I am not sure how to react, at first it’s with annoyance. I’m going to be a single mom with no spouse to help me and here are these people who DO have a spouse who may or may not be away for a few days and they are already complaining after one day. I’m going to be 100% responsible for a small person to raise, love, teach and nurture…just me (and Leo and Oliver…but no thumbs..and they are cats). Maybe it’s some green monster of jealousy that raises it’s ugly head because i made the choice to be a single mother since the father wants nothing to do with this baby. So i’m sorry if i have little empathy for people whose spouse is away. I don’t need to justify my opinion because it is just that an opinion.
29/03/2010 at 4:08 pm Permalink
Nope, you don’t need to justify your opinion. I single parented the entire month of October, two weeks in November and two weeks in December. I’ll be doing it again (this time with a 4 1/2 year old AND a three month old) for 60 days. Totally alone? No. My best friend will help as needed. My family will, too. But, the majority of it will be all Mommy, all the time.
I think those of us that single parent here and there complain (or vent) because it’s NOT something we’re use to. It’s a HUGE adjustment to go from having that extra set of hands to not having it. One of my best friends was a single Mom from the time her boy was 6 months old until he was 11 years old. I watched her struggle and fall on her face; I saw her be angry and sad. But, you know what else I saw? An incredibly strong, independent woman. Single parents have my respect and admiration.
You’re right–you made the choice to be a single parent. Will it be hard? Absolutely. Will you have days where you want to cry and give up? Certainly. But, you won’t. You’ve got this. You will be a fantastic Mama to your little human.
07/04/2010 at 4:35 am Permalink
I understand where you are coming from, and most of it I agree with. I don’t take offense from what you say about women that have husbands that are gone for a couple of days, because I feel that way a lot. My husband deploys for years at a time, so I feel alone, too. I do understand that you are single, though, and that IS different. I hope that everything goes well for you, and I am sure you are tough as nails and will do very well!